The last of the Harvey children, Wynton and Lori, have gone off to college. The longer I live, the more I realize that, in most things significant, mundane, or otherwise, you are the most valuable thing you will ever bring to life’s proverbial table. Parenting is perhaps the most critical example of this principle.
There is a hilarious diaper commercial which displays how obsessed a first time mother is with keeping germs away from her newborn. She is intent on generating a flawless environment for her precious little one, as if great parenting is synonymous with parental perfection. The commercial very quickly reveals the same mother with her second baby. She’s clearly a much wiser woman. Beautifully, she rolls with the punches and does the best she can for the child, giving him just enough care necessitated in that moment. It’s clear she realizes that the task of raising a child in a germ-free, threat-free environment is impossible and ultimately she’s come to realize that even a little dirt won’t hurt.
What a wonderful snapshot of the reality of parenting. The same is true as our young ones transition into whatever is their next phase of growth. In general, as a parent you will sometimes exceed the call of duty, offering your children above and beyond what they may even be aware they need or want. Other times, you will look at them with wonder and amazement, quietly pondering how you both survived.
The most important thing I’ve come to realize, however, as a mother of seven and soon-to-be grandmother of three, is that giving yourself to the little ones who’ve divinely been entrusted into your care is your most important task. To expect to get every moment right along the way is a recipe for disaster because it simply won’t happen. Children learn from both your successes as well as your failures. As long as they know they have you actively engaged in loving them, raising them, looking out for their best interest, and guiding them on a wise path, they’ll grow up to be strong, healthy, and perhaps even great human beings!
So resist measuring whether you’ve raised them right based on the absence or elimination of faults, but instead focus on truly raising them right by giving them the tools to navigate through life’s difficulties with the testimony of your own life as the example. Give them you: A committed, engaged, transparent parent! Their lives will be all the better for it, and so will yours.
*Marjorie Harvey is pictured with her children Lori and Wynton Harvey.
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